It's Ok to Not be Ok

It has been said, "Time heals all wounds." I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.

~Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy

When I lost my Dad a couple months ago, I can say that like many of you who have experienced loss, I was left with a gaping hole in my heart. I've come to realize that the mind can only process pain, but it can not by itself release pain and heal. It requires the combined efforts of the mind, body, and soul to really heal. Allowing wounds to be covered with scar tissue only ensures that the pain becomes trapped inside the body. Yes, I agree that it lessens the pain, but this lessening is only a band-aid. The pain is still there. Over time, the mind learns to live with the loss, but the body remembers. This surfaces as imbalances physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

I have learned to honor my grief. Acknowledge it. Accept it. To be compassionate with myself. To breathe. To cry. To allow the pain and sadness to pass through me from my head to my toes, out the soles of my feet and into the Earth to be transmuted in whatever way it is meant to.

I am not fully healed. It is a process, but I am healing. Some days I am ok. Some days I am not. And that is ok. I can not say that these exact steps will work for you. I don't know you. And I am not a doctor or therapist. I am just a woman who has experienced loss. Who loves others. And who wants you to know you are not alone. No matter what you find yourself going through, there is always someone who has been where you are. Grief is hard. It hurts. But if I help only one person with my message, then I am happy. Love yourself even when you don't want to. And most of all remember; it's ok to not be ok.

Disclaimer - I am not a medical professional or licensed mental health expert. My words are in no way meant to replace medical advice.

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